Guide Kids by Their IQ

As parents, we want to know our children, what ability they have, are they normal kids? Some parents want to know whether their kids are gifted kids. However, the measurement of ability is a really difficult problem, although many researchers and scientists have been working on it more than a century. In addition, measure of intelligence is really controversial topic among parents, educators and scientists.

While the research efforts still keep going on, so far IQ(Intelligence Quotient ) is the most accepted by leading educational psychologists as a single measuring stick for determining cognitive competence.

What is an IQ?

What is Intelligence?
The ability to learn, reason and problem solve. It is a combination of an innate quality and developed results of interacting with the environment.

IQ stands for Intelligence Quotient, which is a numerical representation of intelligence, derived from dividing mental age (result from an intelligence test) by the chronological age times 100. The IQ is a number that ranges from 0 to 200 (plus), 100 is usually considered average.

Is there a need to measure it?

Although IQ level can not present ones’ creativity, it does measure the speed of thinking. Since IQ is still one of the main ways to measure someone’s intelligence so far, why do not you have a try and know better yourself and your kids? Relax and enjoy!

What does an IQ mean?

Score achieved on an intelligence test identifies learning potential, namely, the ability to learn from books, classes, environment and experience, and the ability to apply what have learned to solve problems and make decisions.

How parents guide a kid by his IQ?

There are many types of intelligence, and maintain that one type is not necessarily better than another. Since some of intelligence is so difficult to measure, IQ can not represent it at all, like creativity, common sense, IQ score only can be used as a reference when come to a kid’s education.

In addition, IQ tests come in many forms, for example, some tests use a single type of question, while others use several different subtests. A typical IQ tests include items from various domains, such as short-term memory, verbal knowledge, spatial visualization, logic thinking and perceptual speed with time limit. Therefore, the score you got just by taking one IQ test is not necessarily true.

If your child gets a score around average or even above average
In order to not give your child the implication that intelligence is innate and fixed, do not overemphasis on intellect or talent because it may leave him or her vulnerable to failure, fearful of challenges and not willing to pay effort, even lead to him or her be unmotivated to learn. Encourage effort and stress growth by learning, in this way parents will help the kid to do better in school and in life.

If your child gets a score under average
Since IQ tests come in many forms, they may come to different results. If you found that you child may have some problem on learning in the same time, I suggest you to take a professional IQ test and consult with specialist if necessary.

In fact the IQ test is still a test that mainly focuses on two aspects, which are Language and Math skills. One can be intelligent in many fields such as music, painting, art, and sports without having strong Math and/or Language skills.

Parents should praise the kid for his or her passion on learning, effort and persistence, tell him or her successful stories that emphasize love to learn and hard working, and teach them about the brain as a learning machine. One can be more intelligent by continuous learning, and IQ score actually can be improved.

Understanding Parents and Children’s Temperament

Understanding Parents and Children’s Temperament is very important for parenting kids. Different children’s personalities need a different parenting approach. Parents can provide their best care for children with various temperamental characteristics by learning about differences in temperament.

What is temperament?

Temperament refers to individual characteristics that are assumed to have a genetic basis, determines the individual’s affective, attention and motor responses in various situations. An individual’s temperament style can be observed in infancy and remains similar throughout the life.

We know some children who are overly intense having a ”short fuse,” are easily irritated and upset. Some children are shy, uneasy in new situations. Differences in Children’s Temperament affect how children get along with their families, and also affect how they get along in school.

9 dimensions of temperament

The well-known 9 dimensions of temperament as follows were identified by psychiatrists Alexander Thomas, Stella Chess and their colleagues. These may help parents better understand your own and your Children’s Temperament and behavior.

  1. Sensory threshold- This refers to the amount of noise, pain, or other stimulation that causes a response on a scale from low to high sensitivity.
  2. Activity level-This refers to the amount of movement and how long involved in the activity in daily circumstances.
  3. Regularity-This refers to the amount of regularity in daily activities like eating and sleeping on a scale from irregular to regular.
  4. Intensity- This refers to the amount of energy put into reactions on a scale from low to high.
  5. Adaptability -This refers to the tendency toward changes in daily life on a scale from low to high adaptability.
  6. Mood –This refers to the tendency to have happy or unhappy behavior and reactions on a scale from negative to positive.
  7. Approach/Withdrawal-This refers to how easily a child adapts to new experiences such as foods, people, places and clothes on a scale from difficult to easy.
  8. Persistence- This refers to the amount of time a child spends on an activity regardless of distractions on a scale from low to high persistence.
  9. Distractibility -This refers to the tendency toward continuing activity when faced with noise, other activity on a scale of low to high distractibility.

Types of temperament

There are three basic types of temperaments as follows proposed by the researchers. By understanding these patterns, parents can tailor your parenting approach to suit your Children’s Temperament and unique needs.

  • Easy or flexible children are generally calm, happy, adaptable and regular in sleeping and eating habits.
  • Difficult, active, or feisty children are often easily upset, irregular in feeding and sleeping habits, fearful of new situations and intense in their reactions.
  • Slow to warm up or cautious children are relatively inactive and sometimes requiring great attention to trivial details, tend to react negatively to new situations, but their reactions gradually become more positive with continuous exposure.

By the researchers, most children have some level of intensity on several temperament traits, but one dimension will usually dominate.

Understanding Children’s Temperament

Understanding children’s temperament will help parents get ready to react in various situations and meet the children’s needs. By better understanding a child’s temperament, parents can explain why the child might be behaving in a certain way and anticipate how the child will react to a particular event or situation. In addition, parents can communicate with the child efficiently, find out an effective approach to guide the child, and create a positive relationship with the child.

Understanding parents’ temperament

Parents also need to know their own temperament traits and be aware any pinpoint areas in which conflicts with their child arise, so that parents can prevent from temperament friction with the child as possible as they can, and prepare the first move to adapt the child in case the conflict happens.


To learn more parenting skills related to Children’s Temperament, please refer to great parenting books.

How to Find out a Child’s Learning Style

A child’s learning style is how he or she gets and processes new information. All children learn in different ways.

Why Are Learning Styles Important?

As the child’s first teacher, parents should identify and accommodate for the child’s preferred learning style. Understanding how the child learns is very important in his or her attitude toward learning and success.

Parents will help the child better by knowing his or her learning styles. Otherwise, may get really bad teaching results, although the patents were trying hard to “help the child”. For example, most parents assume unintentionally that their child learns exactly like they do, however it is not true. Children often have different learning styles than their parents, and have different learning styles than their siblings. The sooner parents understand learning styles and the child’s preferred learning styles, the sooner parents will be able to help the child effectively.

Three Typical Learning Styles

Everyone learns differently. However, we can categorize learning styles into three typical ones, which are learning by hearing or auditory, learning by seeing or visual, and learning by doing or kinetic.

Hearing or Auditory

If a child learns best by hearing, people call him or her an auditory learner. He or she will be very sensitive to voice. He or she can sense speakers’ emotion by the voice, such as happy, angry, and frustrated. Voice has big impact on him or her. The child enjoys the lessons on podcasts, MP3 players, CDs, radios and tapes. He or she has weak tolerance to noise.

Seeing or Visual

If a child learns best by seeing, people call him or her a visual learner. He or she will be very sensitive to facial expressions in terms of understanding emotions. He or she prefers to see pictures, charts, graphs, diagrams, video and TV to get information. Other visual images can distract him or her from concentrating on studying.

Doing or Kinetic

If a child learns best by doing, called a kinesthetic learner, he or she prefers to touch and manipulate objects. His or her body moves frequently. Therefore, it is very hard to let the child sit for a long time listening or watching, like in the traditional classroom, where a teacher is talking, the students are listening and watching the teacher. The child’s learning style is his or her distraction from concentrating on listening or seeing. Lab time may be his or her favorite time.

Understanding a Child’s Learning Style

Almost every child is capable of learning in any of these styles. As the child gets older, he or she may use each of these styles. However, he or she may have a preferred learning style.

In order to identify the child’s preferred learning style, parents can look for clues in three ways, which are to listen to the words the child uses, to watch how he or she teaches others, to pay attention to the way he or she plays.

What are the words or phrases the child often uses?

  • Relate to hearing or listening such as talk, listen, hear, sound, etc. This suggests an auditory approach.
  • Related to seeing, showing a picture of the information, these words or phrases might include see, look, observe, etc. This suggests a visual approach.
  • Related to doing such as sit, jump, go, try, act, get, etc. This suggests a kinetic approach.

Asking the child to teach someone else how to do something

This is a valuable way to identify the child’s learning style, because people usually teach using their preferred learning style.

  • auditory learner will explain the process using words in mouth.
  • A visual learner will draw a picture may even use different colors to demonstrate it.
  • A kinetic learner will “walk” through the process while doing it.

By the theory of multiple intelligence, human beings possess a lot of different types of intelligence, and most of time, they function together. Therefore, every individual has the ability to use every learning style. However, everybody has one or two styles that work better for him or her when learn.

As the child’s first teacher, parents’ job is to help the child enjoy learning. If the child is struggling with a task, it is likely he or she is not using his or her preferred learning style. Help the child by incorporating his or her learning style into the task, and then he or she will enjoy the learning process.