How Parents and Children of Immigrant Families Inherit Their Family Values to Take the Advantage of Their Strength?

“Take in the essence and throw away the dross” for Immigrant Families

We mentioned that for new Immigrant Families, they need follow the rule, “Do in Rome as Rome does” in the previous post, however, we still think that in the same time, immigrants should stick to the principle, which is “take in the essence and throw away the dross”. Namely, try to fit in without selling out. While we all struggle with “fitting in” for the entirety of our lives, we do have our own believes and principles.

Strong family values help children in Immigrant Families grow up stronger

Growing up most children in Immigrant Families encountered the obstacles of poverty and minority status, such as the need to work, the constant reminder that they were outsiders. However, strong family values helped them focus on the opportunities and mental toughness to overcome the obstacles. Within immigrant family, they feel rich in health, blessed with life and challenged by their parents to be decent, hard-working people, which turn into great motivators.

Family obligation motivates children in Immigrant Families to achieve

One of the top reasons for immigrants regardless of their educational level, financial standing, or country of origin, to come to the United States is a desire to provide better educational and economic opportunities to their families and children. Most of the children in immigrant families are well aware of their parents’ motivations for coming to the United States, and by the time they reach adolescence, they acknowledge their parents’ efforts and sacrifices, and use these as sources of motivation for trying to succeed in American society.

Family obligation is defined as a collection of values and behaviors related to the children’s provision of support, assistance, and respect to their parents, siblings, and other family members. These norms of children assisting the family exist within the cultural traditions of many immigrants’ native countries, and they act as a very significant role as immigrant families attempt to adapt to a new and different society.

Motivate Children in Immigrant Families to be valuable to their family

Children from immigrant families expressed a strong sense of obligation to support, assist, and respect the family. They feel strongly about helping their families and believe it is an important aspect of their immigrant and cultural heritage, which motivates them to work hard and be valuable to their family.

Motivate Children in Immigrant Families to well-being

American society emphasizes on individuality and independence, which is very important to a child who becomes a grown up as an individual, not being dependent on their parents. While I think that we are human being who is social animal, we need help each other whenever we need help from others. When a family member needs help, we definitely need to help him or her, it is our responsibility. I believe this value and want to pass this value to my children wherever they are. A sense of obligation to the family can motivate children to well-being, to be kind and responsible person who can make a meaningful contribution to others.

By the research results, it has been consistently found that those with a greater sense of obligation to the family reported more positive psychological well-being and self-esteem, because adolescents and young adults feel that they play a valuable and important role in the family.

Motivate Children in Immigrant Families to academic achievement

Most of us agree that nowadays college attendance is mandatory requirement for having a good job. Most contemporary immigrant parents understand it and have high educational aspirations for their children and emphasize the importance of doing well in school.

As a result, family obligation is a critical source of the strong academic motivation of Children in Immigrant Families. For example, many of them believe that doing well in school is the best way for them to succeed as an adult. Research also shows that across immigrant groups from a variety of countries and ethnic backgrounds, students indicate a desire to do well in school in order to help their families and support them in the future.

Because children’s sense of obligation to their immigrant families affects their adaptation and adjustment in the United States and it also motivates them to their overall well-being, be a responsible person, achieve academically and achieve in their whole life. I strongly believe that immigrant family should pass the culture and value heritage of children assisting the family to their next generation.

The family is the strongest team

In order to survive and thrive in the new and different society, the family should work as a team, help each other, parents and children in Immigrant Families should constantly learn and work hard. I believe with the priceless love between parents and their children, immigrant parents and children will succeed in the new society.

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What is Thanksgiving

As an immigrant, I just knew Thanksgiving is one big holiday in the United States when people eat turkeys. You will see turkey is everywhere around Thanksgiving. I think it is better to take this chance to learn a bit more about history of thanksgiving and understand why people celebrate it. Actually, with globalization, the United States of America’s Thanksgiving Holiday has been globalized.

“What is Thanksgiving?”, the answers to the question may vary. It will depend largely on whom you ask.

In the American history, Thanksgiving was the only time the Europeans were actually given land by the Native Americans. It was only through the giving nature of the Native Americans that the Europeans survived. For most of Americans, Thanksgiving has become a tradition of “giving thanks” for our blessings. Over the years, this has evolved into a feast in most homes. However, Thanksgiving, to the American Indian is not much of a celebration. Thanksgiving represents the beginning of the end for the Great Nations.

Thanksgiving became a National Holiday in 1789, marked by a speech by George Washington, who said, in part:
“…Now therefore I do recommend and assign Thursday the 26th day of November next to be devoted by the People of these States to the service of that great and glorious Being, who is the beneficent Author of all the good that was, that is, or that will be. That we may then all unite in rendering unto him our sincere and humble thanks, for his kind care and protection of the People of this Country previous to their becoming a Nation, for the signal and manifold mercies, and the favorable interpositions of his providence, which we experienced in the course and conclusion of the late war, for the great degree of tranquility, union, and plenty, which we have since enjoyed, for the peaceable and rational manner, in which we have been enabled to establish constitutions of government for our safety and happiness, and particularly the national One now lately instituted, for the civil and religious liberty with which we are blessed; and the means we have of acquiring and diffusing useful knowledge; and in general for all the great and various favors which he hath been pleased to confer upon us.”

Thanksgiving today

Most people enjoy having Thanksgiving because it is a holiday when family and friends get together and have a big thanksgiving dinner with plenty of food. The day after is the official opening of the “Christmas Season”, so many shoppers can get holiday deals.

Thanksgiving day involves a feast among family and friends, called Thanksgiving dinner. What foods are served and what activities are enjoyed can vary among families, but some foods have become synonymous with Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving Turkey

Turkey has been the featured Entrée on the Thanksgiving tables of many families in Thanksgiving.

However, cooking turkey is really not easy. Because we usually buy frozen turkeys, and it can take long time (several days) for a turkey to thaw in the refrigerator. In addition, many people begin cooking their turkeys on the night before the holiday. However, most people, begin their turkey preparation early Thanksgiving morning. Turkey can be cooked in many different ways, such as roasted turkey, smoked turkey and fry turkeys.

What is Halloween?

I’m an immigrant. I did not feel comfortable about the scary spiders and skeletons and did not understand why so many Americans like it. Who ever thought of the idea of walking around in weird costumes, trick-or-treating, and/or putting a carved-out pumpkin in the windows? If you are new to Halloween, hope this article helps you understand a little bit about it.

Halloween is a holiday that’s celebrated every year on the night of October 31. It is originated in Ireland, and is celebrated in many countries including Ireland, the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, New Zealand, Australia, Sweden and many other Countries. It’s celebrated in many different ways and activities including trick-or-treating, ghost tours, bonfires, costume parties, “haunted house” tours, carving pumpkins (Jack-o’-lanterns) and reading scary stories or watching scary movies.

Halloween is a time of celebration and superstition. It is thought to have originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off roaming ghosts. Over time, Halloween evolved into a secular, community-based event characterized by child-friendly activities such as trick-or-treating. In a number of countries around the world, as the days grow shorter and the nights get colder, people continue to usher in the winter season with gatherings, costumes and sweet treats.

What does the name ‘Halloween’ mean?

The name Halloween, originally spelled Hallowe’en, is a contraction of All Hallows Even, meaning the day before All Hallows Day, better known as All Saints Day, a Catholic holiday commemorating Christian saints and martyrs observed since the early Middle Ages on November 1.


Trick-or-treating is a customary celebration for children on Halloween. Children go in costume from house to house, asking for treats such as candy or sometimes money, with the question, “Trick or treat?” The word “trick” refers to a “threat” to perform mischief on the homeowners or their property if no treat is given. In some parts of Scotland children still go guising. In this custom the child performs some sort of trick, i.e. sings a song or tells a ghost story, to earn their treats.

Halloween Costumes

Halloween costumes are traditionally modeled after supernatural figures such as monsters, ghosts, skeletons, witches, and devils. Over time, the costume selection extended to include popular characters from fiction, celebrities, and generic archetypes such as ninjas and princesses.

Dressing up in costumes and going “guising” was prevalent in Scotland at Halloween by the late 19th century. Costuming became popular for Halloween parties in the US in the early 20th century, as often for adults as for children. The first mass-produced Halloween costumes appeared in stores in the 1930s when trick-or-treating was becoming popular in the United States. Halloween costume parties generally fall on, or around, 31 October, often falling on the Friday or Saturday prior to Halloween. Though it was regarded up until the last few decades of the 20th century as primarily a children’s holiday, in more recent years common Halloween activities such as mask wearing, costume parties, themed decorations, and even trick-or-treating have grown quite popular with adults as well, making Halloween an “all-ages” holiday.

What Is Halloween Really About?

Some people may say Halloween is the devil’s birthday. Some may say that it’s just the time to eat a lot of candy. Some may say it’s just a fun day to dress up. But what is Halloween really about?

By the history, people danced around giant fires in the hopes of encouraging the sun to stay in the sky, life continues to require us to find ways to deal with sadness, illness, natural disasters, death, and people who commit evil.

Nowadays, Halloween, to most of us, is nothing more than that one day at the end of October, when children and adults dress up, have parties, get candy, and have fun.

If you are interested, please refer to “Halloween Books For Kids” and “Halloween Costumes for Kids“.