Parenting Teenagers

Teenage is a very difficult time for kids themselves as well as their parents. The kids no longer remain kids and they are yet to become adults. Challenge courses, peer pressure, and the emotions make them stressful. During this time, in order to guide teenagers, parents need to connect with them, pay much care and caution.

In order to achieve better parenting, we would like to discuss several topics in the next posts. We will start with the development of teens’ brain, then move to figure out what are teenagers’ needs? How to connect with teenagers? How to help them handle stress? How to guide them on nutrition and exercises? How to Motivate Teenagers to Be Their Best? Let’s do our best to be good parents in order to guide teenagers to success!

Let’s learn about teenager parenting together and be better parents.

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Goal Setting for Kids

This article talks about Goal Setting for Kids, because goal setting is a critical skill to succeed in our career and life. It is the first and foremost factor of successful people. In order to succeed, we must have a goal and know exactly what it is we are trying to do towards the goal.

Why Teach Kids Goal Setting?

As parents, we can shape our kids and help them succeed in their school, future career and their life by instilling success characteristics such as goal setting, and self-confidence into their daily life, so that they can use them throughout their life.

This is a best gift we can give to our kids when we teach them to set goals. Parents’ goals are to give kids a habit of setting goals. Of course, we also need to teach kids how to plan and take action and achieve the goals.
The earlier we encourage kids to think about what they are trying to achieve, both at home and at school, the better. And the process of writing out their goals can help enormously.

How to Help Your Child Build Goal Setting Skill?

We know that goal setting is all about setting a goal, planning, making progress towards the goal and reaching the goal.

Goal setting for kids will help your children do better on their school, such as tests sports activities, music programs or other extracurricular activities. It also helps them in many aspects of their life.

Goal setting for kids is basically the same as for adults. However, you’d better help you child start with a smaller and more tangible goal. You can help your child learn to set goals by working through the following five steps:

Step 1: Ask “What” questions. Such as “What do you want to do?”, and “What do you want to be?”
Help your child describe something he or she would like to do or to be in specific words. For example, getting an A on his or her next math test; can ride a bike.

Step 2: Ask the question, “How will you get there?”
Help your child plan out the steps to take and set some small goals to reach on his or her way to the ultimate goal.

Step 3: Help your child follow through the plan and reach the goal.
Have your child write down what he or she wants to achieve and what his or her plan for getting there.
Help your child take action and keep motivated by having him or her read the written plan each day, and ask him or her to share his or her progress with you. Help your child do some adjustments if needed.

Step 4: Celebrate what your child have done.
Achievement is not only for the final outcome, but also for the small goals that are met along the way.

Step 5: Help your child review the goal setting process.
Help your child by reviewing the goal setting process along the way and at the end as well. Review with your child the goal, the plan and how it was going. How the adjustments were made? How does your child feel and think about his or her progress? Ask your child tell his or her goal setting experience and share what he or she has learned.

Tell your child that reaching the ultimate goal is important, however, setting a goal and work for it even more important. In addition, learning on the way of planning and goal setting is extremely valuable. Encourage your child to not give up on his or her goals, but that if one plan doesn’t work, he or she has to revise the plan and keep trying.

Goal setting is one of the most important skills that a person can learn, and the earlier this skill is learned, the more chances there are for successful outcomes in a person’s life. Therefore, we encourage you think about goal setting for kids and help your child build goal setting skill as early as possible.

Goal setting for kids is a skill that will be built on throughout your children’s entire lifetime. Helping your children build goal setting skill is one of the best things you can do. You will be giving your children a valuable gift that they will be useful for their entire lives.

Success for Teens Motivational

Formula for Success is a great motivational resource consisting of six DVDs that provide answers, solutions and guidance for teens struggling with every day issues, such as achieving better grades, personal relationships and fitness. The program also provides a clear outline to help teens identify and achieve their goals.

It received the most five star reviews on Amazon.com. Highly recommended for helping your teens do better and succeed in school and life!

Parents’ Guide to the Teen Brain

We used to think that teenagers respond “not normally” because of their hormones, or attitude, or because they simply need independence. But when adolescents’ brains are studied by researchers through magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), it was found that they actually work differently compared with adult brains. Teenagers’ brain is still in the progress.

By learning how adolescent brain development, parents can understand the teens’ behaviors, such as impulsiveness, rebellion, high emotions and risk-taking, which are “normal” teenage behaviors, so that parents can guide the confusing and frustrating teen years and teens’ behavior and personalities as they get older better.

By scientists, the human brain takes 25 years to fully develop. With the advent of magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), researchers can see how the brain actually functions, what parts of the brain use energy when performing certain tasks. For instance, research found that the particular part of the brain “lights up” when performing a visual task.

It was thought at one time that the foundation of the brain’s architecture was laid down by the time a child is five or six. In fact, 95 percent of the structure of the brain has been formed by then. Dr. Jay Giedd at the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, Md., together with colleagues found that an area of the brain called the prefrontal cortex, appeared to be growing again just before puberty(age 11 in girls, 12 in boys). The prefrontal cortex acts as the CEO of the brain, which is responsible for complex judgment and decision-making, such as controlling planning, working memory, organization, and modulating mood. It was observed, as the prefrontal cortex matures, teenagers reason better, develop more control over impulses and make judgments better.

It was found that the frontal cortex gives adults the ability to distinguish a subtlety of expression. For the teens, this area wasn’t fully operating. That’s a possible reason to explain that the teenage years seem so emotionally turbulent, and the teens seem to be misreading the feelings on the adult’s face.

Reactions, rather than rational thought, come deeper in the brain, than the frontal cortex, some neuroscientists suggest that an immature brain leads to impulsivity, or “risk-taking behavior.”

Jay Giedd and his colleagues’ research confirm what other neuroscientists have outlined over the past 25 years that different parts of the brain mature at different times. In particular, it has shown that the frontal cortex of human beings matures relatively late in a child’s life.

Some researchers argue that the idea that adolescents are difficult because their frontal lobes aren’t mature is one we should be very cautious of. We all know there are adolescents that are hard to get along with. However, there are adults with mature frontal areas that are hard to get along with for the same reason. In addition, there are very young children who seem to have no problem with this. Very immature brain structure, yet results in very sophisticated behavior. Therefore, moving from structure to function, deciding what behavior is caused by what part of the brain is much more complicated.

Besides a few well-defined sensitive periods for certain types of vision, hearing, and first-language learning, the brain is capable of growth well beyond the first few years of life. It is found that an important part of the growth is happening just before puberty and well into adolescence.

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