How Well Do You Know Your Child?

In U.S.A we often hear that parenting does matters. In China, we all know if the child is not well educated, everybody blames his or her parents. In Japan, we also hear that a child wins because his or her parents’ power. There is no doubt that family education acts a crucial role on children’s education. Parents are the most important teachers in a child’s life.

While we all know that by children’s developmental milestones, they were born as successful learners, they have incredible eagerness and ability to learn. However, as they grow, some are doing well in school, some are not. Each child has unique gifts to contribute to the learning process. It is our responsibility, as parents and teachers, to help children know what their gifts are and how to nurture them.

How parents help the child identify and respect his or her talents, learning strengths, and needs? How parents help the child discover his or her interests, dreams, passions, and goals? How parents help the child become an eager, self-directed learner? How parents help the child to maximize his or her learning ability and potential? In the next several posts, we are going to discuss these questions.

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Guide Kids by Their IQ

As parents, we want to know our children, what ability they have, are they normal kids? Some parents want to know whether their kids are gifted kids. However, the measurement of ability is a really difficult problem, although many researchers and scientists have been working on it more than a century. In addition, measure of intelligence is really controversial topic among parents, educators and scientists.

While the research efforts still keep going on, so far IQ(Intelligence Quotient ) is the most accepted by leading educational psychologists as a single measuring stick for determining cognitive competence.

What is an IQ?

What is Intelligence?
The ability to learn, reason and problem solve. It is a combination of an innate quality and developed results of interacting with the environment.

IQ stands for Intelligence Quotient, which is a numerical representation of intelligence, derived from dividing mental age (result from an intelligence test) by the chronological age times 100. The IQ is a number that ranges from 0 to 200 (plus), 100 is usually considered average.

Is there a need to measure it?

Although IQ level can not present ones’ creativity, it does measure the speed of thinking. Since IQ is still one of the main ways to measure someone’s intelligence so far, why do not you have a try and know better yourself and your kids? Relax and enjoy!

What does an IQ mean?

Score achieved on an intelligence test identifies learning potential, namely, the ability to learn from books, classes, environment and experience, and the ability to apply what have learned to solve problems and make decisions.

How parents guide a kid by his IQ?

There are many types of intelligence, and maintain that one type is not necessarily better than another. Since some of intelligence is so difficult to measure, IQ can not represent it at all, like creativity, common sense, IQ score only can be used as a reference when come to a kid’s education.

In addition, IQ tests come in many forms, for example, some tests use a single type of question, while others use several different subtests. A typical IQ tests include items from various domains, such as short-term memory, verbal knowledge, spatial visualization, logic thinking and perceptual speed with time limit. Therefore, the score you got just by taking one IQ test is not necessarily true.

If your child gets a score around average or even above average
In order to not give your child the implication that intelligence is innate and fixed, do not overemphasis on intellect or talent because it may leave him or her vulnerable to failure, fearful of challenges and not willing to pay effort, even lead to him or her be unmotivated to learn. Encourage effort and stress growth by learning, in this way parents will help the kid to do better in school and in life.

If your child gets a score under average
Since IQ tests come in many forms, they may come to different results. If you found that you child may have some problem on learning in the same time, I suggest you to take a professional IQ test and consult with specialist if necessary.

In fact the IQ test is still a test that mainly focuses on two aspects, which are Language and Math skills. One can be intelligent in many fields such as music, painting, art, and sports without having strong Math and/or Language skills.

Parents should praise the kid for his or her passion on learning, effort and persistence, tell him or her successful stories that emphasize love to learn and hard working, and teach them about the brain as a learning machine. One can be more intelligent by continuous learning, and IQ score actually can be improved.

Money Values

In order to teach children about money, we as parents have to examine our own attitudes and values toward money first, and then think about the things we want our children to understand. Let’s take a look at some quotes on money, which are popular sayings that have become acceptable as a general truth through long use. However, like any saying, each of the following adages could only fit certain situations, may not cover all aspects in our life. Use them as references.

  • “Money isn’t everything. It’s just most everything.” Money is very important to meet a lot of needs in our daily life. Such as food, housing, college.
  • “Money is power, & you ought to be reasonably ambitious to have it.” When we have money we can do a lot of things, help schools, donate to those people really need it. Such as people who are suffering from natural disasters.
  • “Money’s only important when you don’t have any.” If we have a lot of money, more than we need, money becomes not so important to us.
  • “The real measure of your wealth is how much you’d be worth if you lost all your money.” Money is just the outcome of hardworking using our ability.
  • “Money can’t buy happiness.” Money can not solve some person’s problems. For example, some well-paid movie stars who are taking drugs, having trouble with the law.
  • “Self-worth isn’t measured in dollars and cents.” It doesn’t mean that a rich person who has the money is valued in that way. Some people got rich by doing bad things, such as trading drugs; certainly they are not regarded as valuable people.
  • “Money, like manure, only does well when you spread it around and encourage small things to grow.” Money is just a tool to help people live better. Using money to pay for an education, to start a business, or to donate to charity are certainly good reasons for having money.
  • “A fool and his money are soon parted.” Wise money management needs knowledge.
  • “Those who are of the opinion that Money will do everything, may very well be suspected to do everything for Money.” If a person put money as his or her fist priority, it will be very dangerous.
  • “Your money or your life.” We know what to do when a burglar makes this demand of us. Life is much more important than money.
  • “Money may be the husk of many things but not the kernel. It brings you food, but not appetite; medicine, but not health; acquaintance, but not friends; servants, but not loyalty; days of joy, but not peace or happiness.” Money is not essence for us.
  • “If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability. “Once again knowledge and ability is much more import than money, because, if we do not have knowledge, do not have the ability to grow money, even we have money, money will gone soon.
  • “Never spend your money before you have it. “ A very good advice for avoiding debt.
  • “It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy. “ This is an excellent advice for us to have a healthy and happy life.