Brain Development

How well brain develops by age 6 determines a child’s health and performance in school and throughout life. While we know that the development of a young child’s brain takes years to complete and also know there are many things parents can do to help children get off to a good start and establish healthy patterns for life-long learning. “Well begun is half done.”

The human brain begins forming very early in prenatal life, but brain development is a lifelong process, because the same events that shape the brain during development are also responsible for storing information throughout life. The major difference between brain development in a child versus an adult’s learning is that the child’s brain is far more impressionable in early life than in maturity, which means that young children’s brains are more open to learning and enriching influences but are more vulnerable to developmental problems.

Which is more important in brain development, nature or nurture?
Genes or nature and environment or nurture play very different roles while interacting with each other at every step of brain development. Generally speaking, genes are responsible for forming all of the brain cells and general connections between different brain regions; while experience is responsible for fine-tuning those connections, helping each child adapt to the particular environment such as geographical, cultural, family and school. For example, each of us is born with the potential to learn language. Our brains are programmed to recognize human speech, to discriminate subtle differences between individual speech sounds, to put words together, and to pick up the grammatical rules make sentences. However, the particular language each child masters, the vocabulary, and the dialect and accent with which he/she speaks are determined by the social environment in which he/she is raised, beginning even before birth. Genetic potential is necessary, but DNA alone cannot teach a child to talk.

Does experience change the actual structure of the brain?
The answer is yes. Brain development is activity-dependent.
Like computer circuits, neural circuits process information through the flow of electricity. However, the circuits in our brains are much more flexible. Every experience, such as reading a book, riding a bicycle, sharing a story, excites certain neural circuits and leaves others inactive. Those that are consistently used will be strengthened, while the others may be dropped away. This is called “pruning”, which benefits neural processing, making the circuits work more quickly and efficiently.

Since providing a brain-using environment for kids to grow is so crucial for their brain’s development, that’s why most of our parents give their kids toys, video etc, to nurture the kids to be smarter and wiser.

How Well Do You Know Your Child?

In U.S.A we often hear that parenting does matters. In China, we all know if the child is not well educated, everybody blames his or her parents. In Japan, we also hear that a child wins because his or her parents’ power. There is no doubt that family education acts a crucial role on children’s education. Parents are the most important teachers in a child’s life.

While we all know that by children’s developmental milestones, they were born as successful learners, they have incredible eagerness and ability to learn. However, as they grow, some are doing well in school, some are not. Each child has unique gifts to contribute to the learning process. It is our responsibility, as parents and teachers, to help children know what their gifts are and how to nurture them.

How parents help the child identify and respect his or her talents, learning strengths, and needs? How parents help the child discover his or her interests, dreams, passions, and goals? How parents help the child become an eager, self-directed learner? How parents help the child to maximize his or her learning ability and potential? In the next several posts, we are going to discuss these questions.

To learn more parenting skills, please refer to great parenting books.

Good Parenting Principles

In order to raise a healthy, happy and successful child, we as parents should learn good parenting knowledge and skills. Although perfect parents do not exist, good parenting principles do exit. We want to be better parents.

Here we summarize ten basic principles for good parenting.

  1. Be aware that parenting needs effort

    Every day, think about parenting, remind yourself how to treat and respond to your child has effect on the child, try to learn a lesson from your experience of parenting, and improve parenting by learning as well, be responsible parents.

  2. Give a high priority to parenting, be involved in your child’s activity

    For busy working parents, this is challenging. However, you should manage your time, your work in such a way, which puts your child first. It sometimes means sacrificing your own interest in order to meet your child’s needs. Be there for your child mentally as well as physically.

  3. Love your child but cannot too much

    Every day, show your child genuine expressions of warmth and affection, for example giving lots of hugs to your child. Different culture has different ways. However, if your child breaks a rule or does something wrong, you should tell him or her what is right thing to do. Criticize the behavior, not your child.

  4. Set family rules

    Our society has rules, in order to help your child succeed in school, the real world, As a parent, you need to set family rules to help your child learn how to manage himself or herself. In order to know your child better, you should be clear on these three questions at anytime: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing?

  5. Be consistent on your family rules

    Your family rules need to be clear and consistent. Otherwise your child will be confusing and will not take it seriously. Explain your family rules to your child, the more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it. In addition, if two parents are raising a child together, both parents need to use the same rules.

  6. Explain your decisions to your child

    Because your child does not have the knowledge and experience that you have, you need explain to him or her what you are thinking and why you made the decision with patience. For your child at different developmental stage, you need to explain to him or her in an easy-understanding way.

  7. Avoid harsh punishment

    By the research that of all the forms of punishment that parents use, physical punishment has the worst side effects. Children who are hit are more likely to fight with other children using aggression to solve disputes, because they emulate their parents.

  8. Adapt your parenting to fit your child at different developmental stages

    A child has different needs at different developmental stage, the ways to use parenting a toddler should be different with parenting a teenager. As a parent, you need to learn the milestones of children’s development and make sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s development.

  9. Respect your child

    Children treat others using the same way their parents treat them. Think your child is a person just like anyone else, who needs to be respected, just like yourself. Speak to your child politely, respect his or her opinion. Listen carefully when he or she is speaking to you. Treat him or her like a friend.

  10. Foster your child’s independence

    Encouraging independence, give some free space but with some limits to your child to help him or her develop self-control, which is one of the keys to be successful in life. Explain the difference between rebelliousness and independence to your child. Independence is a part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else. Remind your child that he or she has to have the capability to control, which needs him or her to continue to learn.

To learn more parenting skills, please refer to great parenting books.