How Well Do You Know Your Child?

In U.S.A we often hear that parenting does matters. In China, we all know if the child is not well educated, everybody blames his or her parents. In Japan, we also hear that a child wins because his or her parents’ power. There is no doubt that family education acts a crucial role on children’s education. Parents are the most important teachers in a child’s life.

While we all know that by children’s developmental milestones, they were born as successful learners, they have incredible eagerness and ability to learn. However, as they grow, some are doing well in school, some are not. Each child has unique gifts to contribute to the learning process. It is our responsibility, as parents and teachers, to help children know what their gifts are and how to nurture them.

How parents help the child identify and respect his or her talents, learning strengths, and needs? How parents help the child discover his or her interests, dreams, passions, and goals? How parents help the child become an eager, self-directed learner? How parents help the child to maximize his or her learning ability and potential? In the next several posts, we are going to discuss these questions.

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How to Choose the Best College?

It depends on each applicant’s individual objective condition and subjective condition, namely, what do you what? What can you reach?

After considering how to choose a right major for you (refer to the previous post), at least you have some ideas that you may interest in one or several directions.

To find the right college for you, to know yourself and potential colleges is the key.

What do you what? Questions related your subjective conditions.

What is your career goal?
A clear goal always motivates a person. It is an essential factor for choosing a college.

Want a challenging academic environment or not?
Most of the famous universities are very competitive and have very challenging academic courses, while the reward is also big. Usually the students can get to know famous professors and get better education environments, and the graduates have more job opportunity, more chance to succeed in some fields.

What major or programs of study interests you?
Enjoying what you are doing is the best motivation.

Prefer a rural, suburban, or urban environment?
Some people like quiet study environment, while some like exciting big city life styles.

Want a college that is near your home?
If you choose a college near your home, it is easy to meet family and take advantage of the network you and your family already built. In addition, it is cost effective.

Want scholarship or financial aid?
Usually anyone wants scholarship, for financial aid depends on each individual’s financial situation, some may do not need it.

Public school or private school or does not matter?
Public schools are usually funded primarily by the state and are governed by a group of publicly-elected officials and private schools are the opposite of public schools, with most of their funding coming from private sources and are run by private individuals or organizations. Usually, public schools are less costly than private schools; however, some private schools have scholarships and good financial aid programs.

Want a school with diversity races?
In a country where a lot of cultures and races mix together, some people consider it important to evaluate the racial ratio in colleges. In U.S.A, usually, the minority ethnic races include Asians, Hispanics and African-Americans.

What can you reach? Questions related you objective conditions.

What are your academic skills and talent?
Including your high school ranking, GPA score, SAT scores and other things show your talent and skills, which make you stand out. For example, if you do not have a good GPA, you can not apply some colleges.

Can you afford the college?
Consider the financial aspects. Get a clear picture of the costs, such as tuition, class fees, housing, and meal plans. Look into financial aid and scholarships.


  1. Investigate at least three to five colleges which interest to you, and your grades and SAT or ACT scores meet the requirements. A little research and an open mind can greatly increase the odds that you make a good college choice.
  2. Try to find out the answers of the following questions.
    • How long will it take to complete the studies?
    • Who is teaching in the area of study?
    • Is there any famous professor in the area of study?
    • What are the potential job opportunities after graduation?
  3. Because until the very end of the application process, you can only know how much it will cost to attend a college, do not rule out it early because of cost. Many colleges offer scholarships, financial aid, and tuition installment plans.
  4. Deadlines are very important for your application, whether for college applications, SAT or ACT registration, financial aid, scholarships, campus housing, etc. Write down a schedule and adhere strictly to all deadlines.
  5. Visit at least your top two or three choices, before making your final college selection decision. Like the old saying, believe it until see it.

How Can Parents Help Your Child Learn to Write

Learning to read and write is crucial for children. Children usually learn to write print first and move on to handwriting at third or fourth grade and then they start to write essays. Each child is different, parents should not be rush and push your child too hard. Always remember, happy learners learn fast. Parents’ main aim should be to help your child be a happy learner.

Help Your Child learn to write well

Preparing children for school is one of the most important responsibilities of parents. Children must be ready to learn from the first day of school. If parents want your child to do well in school from beginning, which is a key for your child to build his or her self confidence, just like reading, we think parents should help your child with writing before your child starting school as well.

Writing is the necessary skill we need from first-grade throughout adulthood. Writing helps us sending messages, keeping records, and expressing feelings, it also plays a very important role on provoking our thoughts and to organize them logically and concisely. Writing is more than putting words on paper; it is a final stage in the complex process of communicating that begins with “thinking.”

Due to students and teachers ratio is high in many preschools and schools, your child may need additional help for building his or her writing skills. That’s why we suggest that parents help your child with writing. We believe that parents can make a big difference for your child’s future success. Parents can use helping strategies that are simple and fun to help your child learn to write well and to enjoy doing it! We discuss how as follows.

Tips for parents

In helping your child to learn to write well, remember that your goal is to make writing easier and more enjoyable.

Provide a place
It is very important for a child to have a good place to write, a desk with a smooth, flat surface, an age appropriate chair and good lighting.

Have the materials ready
Provide plenty of paper, lined and unlined and things to write with, including pencils, erasers, pens, and crayons.

Help your child hold the pencil properly
Sit next to your child when you write, not opposite. Developing and maintaining an effective and proper pencil grip is very important for handwriting.

Allow sufficient time
Help your child spend time thinking about a writing exercise. Good writers do a great deal of thinking. Be patient, your child need time to think. Do not transfer any worries onto your child. Be relaxed and have fun!

Do respond to the ideas your child expresses verbally or in writing. Make it clear that you are interested in the true function of writing which is to convey ideas. This means focusing on “what” the child has written, not “how” it was written. It’s usually wise to ignore minor errors, particularly at the stage when your child is just getting ideas together.

Praise your child at every opportunity. The more he or she feels successful, the more your child wants to practice; and the better he or she will get.

Ask your child involve in a real writing
Real writing tasks abstract your child’s interest more than artificial ones. Encourage your child to write to relatives and friends. It is more important for your child to write a one-line note on a greeting card and write a letter to a relative. Your child may enjoy corresponding with a pen pal as well.

Write together
In order to let your child see firsthand that writing is important to adults and truly useful, ask your child to help you with letters, whenever you have a chance.

Suggest note-taking
Encourage your child to take notes on trips and to describe what he or she saw. For example, a description of nature walks, a car trip and a boat ride, could be a good start for form a good habit of note-taking.

Suggest making lists
Most children like to make lists just as they like to count. Making lists is good practice to help your child to become more organized. A list of toys, books, game cards, and furniture in your child’s room, are good examples. Your child must be exited about his or her Christmas wish list as well. Helping your child on “to-do-list” on schoolwork including dates for tests, social events, and other reminders is crucial for your child’s planning skills.

Encourage copying
Copying is also a great way to learn. If your child likes a particular song, suggest learning the words by writing them down replaying the song and trying to write down the words whenever the song is played. Also encourage your child to copy favorite poems or quotations from books and plays.

Talk with your child as much as possible about his or her impressions and encourage your child to describe people and events to you.

Encourage keeping a journal
Keeping writing a journal is an excellent writing practice. Encourage your child to write about things that happen at home and school, write about personal feelings, pleasures as well as disappointments, things to remember or things your child wants to do.

Use games
There are numerous games and puzzles that help your child to increase vocabulary and help your child more fluent in writing. Building vocabulary builds confidence. Let your child try crossword puzzles, word games, anagrams and cryptograms designed especially for children. In addition, flash cards are great ways, which are easy to make at home.

Hep your child learning To Read And Write. Using above tips to help your child learn to write and enjoy writing. Remember, do not work when one of you is tired, hungry or bored. Forming a good writing habit as early as possible is the key to help your child to succeed in school and life.

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