How Well Do You Know Your Child?

In U.S.A we often hear that parenting does matters. In China, we all know if the child is not well educated, everybody blames his or her parents. In Japan, we also hear that a child wins because his or her parents’ power. There is no doubt that family education acts a crucial role on children’s education. Parents are the most important teachers in a child’s life.

While we all know that by children’s developmental milestones, they were born as successful learners, they have incredible eagerness and ability to learn. However, as they grow, some are doing well in school, some are not. Each child has unique gifts to contribute to the learning process. It is our responsibility, as parents and teachers, to help children know what their gifts are and how to nurture them.

How parents help the child identify and respect his or her talents, learning strengths, and needs? How parents help the child discover his or her interests, dreams, passions, and goals? How parents help the child become an eager, self-directed learner? How parents help the child to maximize his or her learning ability and potential? In the next several posts, we are going to discuss these questions.

To learn more parenting skills, please refer to great parenting books.

How to Choose the Best College?

It depends on each applicant’s individual objective condition and subjective condition, namely, what do you what? What can you reach?

After considering how to choose a right major for you (refer to the previous post), at least you have some ideas that you may interest in one or several directions.

To find the right college for you, to know yourself and potential colleges is the key.

What do you what? Questions related your subjective conditions.

What is your career goal?
A clear goal always motivates a person. It is an essential factor for choosing a college.

Want a challenging academic environment or not?
Most of the famous universities are very competitive and have very challenging academic courses, while the reward is also big. Usually the students can get to know famous professors and get better education environments, and the graduates have more job opportunity, more chance to succeed in some fields.

What major or programs of study interests you?
Enjoying what you are doing is the best motivation.

Prefer a rural, suburban, or urban environment?
Some people like quiet study environment, while some like exciting big city life styles.

Want a college that is near your home?
If you choose a college near your home, it is easy to meet family and take advantage of the network you and your family already built. In addition, it is cost effective.

Want scholarship or financial aid?
Usually anyone wants scholarship, for financial aid depends on each individual’s financial situation, some may do not need it.

Public school or private school or does not matter?
Public schools are usually funded primarily by the state and are governed by a group of publicly-elected officials and private schools are the opposite of public schools, with most of their funding coming from private sources and are run by private individuals or organizations. Usually, public schools are less costly than private schools; however, some private schools have scholarships and good financial aid programs.

Want a school with diversity races?
In a country where a lot of cultures and races mix together, some people consider it important to evaluate the racial ratio in colleges. In U.S.A, usually, the minority ethnic races include Asians, Hispanics and African-Americans.

What can you reach? Questions related you objective conditions.

What are your academic skills and talent?
Including your high school ranking, GPA score, SAT scores and other things show your talent and skills, which make you stand out. For example, if you do not have a good GPA, you can not apply some colleges.

Can you afford the college?
Consider the financial aspects. Get a clear picture of the costs, such as tuition, class fees, housing, and meal plans. Look into financial aid and scholarships.


  1. Investigate at least three to five colleges which interest to you, and your grades and SAT or ACT scores meet the requirements. A little research and an open mind can greatly increase the odds that you make a good college choice.
  2. Try to find out the answers of the following questions.
    • How long will it take to complete the studies?
    • Who is teaching in the area of study?
    • Is there any famous professor in the area of study?
    • What are the potential job opportunities after graduation?
  3. Because until the very end of the application process, you can only know how much it will cost to attend a college, do not rule out it early because of cost. Many colleges offer scholarships, financial aid, and tuition installment plans.
  4. Deadlines are very important for your application, whether for college applications, SAT or ACT registration, financial aid, scholarships, campus housing, etc. Write down a schedule and adhere strictly to all deadlines.
  5. Visit at least your top two or three choices, before making your final college selection decision. Like the old saying, believe it until see it.

Guide Kids by Their IQ

As parents, we want to know our children, what ability they have, are they normal kids? Some parents want to know whether their kids are gifted kids. However, the measurement of ability is a really difficult problem, although many researchers and scientists have been working on it more than a century. In addition, measure of intelligence is really controversial topic among parents, educators and scientists.

While the research efforts still keep going on, so far IQ(Intelligence Quotient ) is the most accepted by leading educational psychologists as a single measuring stick for determining cognitive competence.

What is an IQ?

What is Intelligence?
The ability to learn, reason and problem solve. It is a combination of an innate quality and developed results of interacting with the environment.

IQ stands for Intelligence Quotient, which is a numerical representation of intelligence, derived from dividing mental age (result from an intelligence test) by the chronological age times 100. The IQ is a number that ranges from 0 to 200 (plus), 100 is usually considered average.

Is there a need to measure it?

Although IQ level can not present ones’ creativity, it does measure the speed of thinking. Since IQ is still one of the main ways to measure someone’s intelligence so far, why do not you have a try and know better yourself and your kids? Relax and enjoy!

What does an IQ mean?

Score achieved on an intelligence test identifies learning potential, namely, the ability to learn from books, classes, environment and experience, and the ability to apply what have learned to solve problems and make decisions.

How parents guide a kid by his IQ?

There are many types of intelligence, and maintain that one type is not necessarily better than another. Since some of intelligence is so difficult to measure, IQ can not represent it at all, like creativity, common sense, IQ score only can be used as a reference when come to a kid’s education.

In addition, IQ tests come in many forms, for example, some tests use a single type of question, while others use several different subtests. A typical IQ tests include items from various domains, such as short-term memory, verbal knowledge, spatial visualization, logic thinking and perceptual speed with time limit. Therefore, the score you got just by taking one IQ test is not necessarily true.

If your child gets a score around average or even above average
In order to not give your child the implication that intelligence is innate and fixed, do not overemphasis on intellect or talent because it may leave him or her vulnerable to failure, fearful of challenges and not willing to pay effort, even lead to him or her be unmotivated to learn. Encourage effort and stress growth by learning, in this way parents will help the kid to do better in school and in life.

If your child gets a score under average
Since IQ tests come in many forms, they may come to different results. If you found that you child may have some problem on learning in the same time, I suggest you to take a professional IQ test and consult with specialist if necessary.

In fact the IQ test is still a test that mainly focuses on two aspects, which are Language and Math skills. One can be intelligent in many fields such as music, painting, art, and sports without having strong Math and/or Language skills.

Parents should praise the kid for his or her passion on learning, effort and persistence, tell him or her successful stories that emphasize love to learn and hard working, and teach them about the brain as a learning machine. One can be more intelligent by continuous learning, and IQ score actually can be improved.